Wow! Sit Down Dinner for your reception is a wonderful event, and I am shore for the quest it is great after the ceremony to come ,sit down and enjoy a wonderful meal. Think about it ,when people sit down to eat they want to talk, eat and socialize. For this some soft jazz or solo piano or combo works well will everyone is eating. So you have to consider that time with your music, usually after desert is when the band starts with the high energy dance music and the party begins. In addition the dance doesn’t usually start till the bride and groom have there fist dance,now that could be before the dinner with announcing the wedding party or after the desert the announcing the first dance and then you start the party. A buffet on the other hand gets the party started from the time the bride and groom arrive, will waiting the the guest are milling around socializing and munching and drinking and the band can play some soft music for waiting ,but not as long as the sit down dinner. You have hired a great live band why not get the party started! On the sit down dinner there should be more time discussed with the band or music for the extra time for the dinner. More food and more time mean more money, less food less time you pay less , this also works into the equation. It ultimately is the Bride and groom choice, our job to make it happen in the way they want. Look forward to your comments.